Apr09

My husband (53) and our daughter (22) are almost like a couple with me (51) as the 3rd party

All of her life, it has been two against one, and when my mother in law was living (passed 2004) it was three against one. Now, as an adult, my daughter is dependant on us, and primarily her father for support, entertainment and etc. She doesn’t have a life and usually tags with us when we go out for entertainment, dinner, camping and etc. She is darling, but, has never had a date. My husband and I can’t be a couple. He always invites her to go almost everywhere with us. When I try to explain how this is hurting me, he gets so defensive. He’s even come back to me and said “if you didn’t want her, you shouldn’t have had her” which was so hurtful. She is in our conversations and business. If I say anything at all to her she doesn’t like, he defends her and jumps all over me. I make a e as my husband, so I can be independant. I just don’t want to have to give up my home I’ve worked all my life for but I’m so emotionally drained and feel so neglected. Our daughter relys on her father more than he relys on her.

I found I could do nearly anything I wanted with #1 but #2 was “hands off my baby”

Has anyone had a problem similar? I’ve tried marriage counseling – and he just keeps going right back. She won’t back off. I feel like I just can’t win and don’t know what to do to fix it. Any ideas when you’ve tried everything you can think of? Continue reading